You Can Go To The Moon and Back For Someone And They'll Have The Audacity To Say "I Never Asked You To Tho"

Everyone has seen this old twitter post all over the internet and I think it’s important we have a conversation about it. There are so many layers to this and I will try my best to unfold every single one for you. I want all of you living you your best, magical life so I want to make sure the popular statement is analyzed thoroughly.

First, I want it to be made clear that you are worthy. You are worthy of someone going to the moon and back for you whether you asked them to, or whether they took it upon themselves to do it. And more importantly you are worthy of love and adoration, just because you are you. You do not have to do any favors of any sort to be loved. 

Let me repeat that. You do not have to DO anything to earn or be worthy of love. All that you need to do is be you. Be the best you, be the real you and love yourself. Is it great to show appreciation for the people in our lives? Yes. But love should not be dependent upon favors.

I want to talk about why we are out here going to the moon and back for people. There are many reasons. Some love languages are about acts of love. Some express their love by doing grand gestures such as running out at midnight to surprise you with your favorite ice cream. If you have someone like that you’d be smart to cherish them. But it is important to understand that not everyone expresses their love in the same way. 

Know the language of your loved ones and be sure to communicate accordingly. Second, some people feel like they need to constantly act to keep someone’s love. No, you don’t. If someone truly loves you and you truly love yourself, there is no room for fear of losing it. We should value ourselves just as much as we value the people we love. If they cannot feel or act the same then that is out of your control. There is no amount of favors that will make a person love you, it will only keep them in your life so that they can continue to reap the benefits of your generosity. 

Next let’s tackle the quote “I never asked you to tho.” There are some retweets going around stating “and they’d be right.” 

Yes, they would be right. 

I know some reactions could be “how dare someone be unappreciative of my kindness. I did all this for them.” And those people would be right as well. 

What I mean is, we all have a responsibility to not intrude on someone’s kindness. It is never ok to let someone do for you what you know you wouldn’t do for them. Reciprocity should always be a goal inside of human interactions. But it is up to us to protect ourselves. We have to know when to say no and when to set boundaries. 

We cannot rely on other people to safeguard our emotions and energy. Love yourself enough to be stingy when needed. Give to yourself before you give to anyone else. Do not ever feel guilty about it because this life is yours to live, no one can live it for you and you cannot live it for anyone else. 

The highest power gives us a mission and it does them a disservice to neglect our souls to the point where we are lacking, hindering us from being our best and truest selves to give to the world.  

Lastly I want to say that it is ok to take help when it is offered. It is ok to ask for help. None of us can do this life alone and while there are limits, we are here to uplift and support one another. To love. God and good karma sends us blessings when we need it or to just brighten our day. Don’t let someone make you feel guilty for needing help or throwing it back in your face when you accept their help. And those of you out here helping people just to make you feel like you are above them, don’t, it negates your good deed. 

I’ll end with this. Love yourself, show love for other people as much as you can. The best way to do that is to figure out our demons and scars. In doing that, it gives us the capacity to understand other people pains and needs. In the world today we need each other more than ever. We need each other’s love, and we need each others empathy.